Rule #1 : Lick it Before you Stick it ......

How important is sex in your relationship?? Whenever I chill with my girls we have the most heated discussions when it comes to sex and relationships, cause we are all so different, and I suppose that's the thing; for different people sex means different things.


My home girl Kay (I'm using an alias to protect her identity -_-) has a huge problem. Her new man refuses to eat the sour sop, he doesn't wanna munch on the cookie, he objects to going down on her. Personally I was appalled he was even still her man with those kinda going-ons, but surprisingly she is okay with it, she dosn't LIKE it, but she's prepared to live with it.


Besides finding it difficult to believe that men like that still exist. I remain totally bewildered and perplexed, even in the aftermath of her lengthy explanation of how "some-things-must-be-sacrificed-for-the-greater-good" ... blah blah blah. How could you be okay with mediocre sex??... from anyone?? ... let alone the person you are considering spending the rest of your life with ??? So he's an awesome guy besides that, she insists he treats her like a Disney Princess, just a stand up human being really. The sex, well.... not so awesome, o_O but home girl is willing to tough it out and hope he comes around..... goes down..... or whatever.


I say... good for her, but I wasn't gonna be able to do that. Just like I can't be with a man who does not have the sufficient intellect to hold a decent conversation with me, I cannot be with someone who is sexually incompatible. I love sex, to say the least. My partner must be able to satisfy me (that includes enthusiastic oral sex) and vice versa. If not, we would just be wasting our time. 


I am unwilling to sacrifice my sex life just cause he's a nice guy. I'll wait ..... I'm sure I can find a nice guy eager to give me mustache rides. But seriously, I know you can never have your cake and eat it. That in every relationship compromises have to be made. I certainly know that when looking for a mate common sense wins, the perfect man does not exist, but I will be damned if I stay with a man who doesn't do the cabbage Patch at the thought of licking me like a puppy, with a bowl ah milk. 

Take me there

My dream is to work hard so I can travel the world. I know I probably wont be able to go to every nook and cranny of the planet so I made a short list of the top 5 places I just absolutely HAVE TO visit before I die (in no particular order). I'll make sure and give yall the other 5 some other time.  




CUBA

EGYPT

ITALY

 

JAPAN 

INDONESIA

If you could only choose 5 places to visit what would they be?

Real Love Is Never Ugly

So my home girl sends me a pic of her new man, "what do you think?" she wants to know, "is he ugly?" I laugh out loud at the thought of her feeling like she has to satisfy some social need to have a Star Boi as her man. I thought he was average. She made me assure her that my inconsequential opinion about his nose and jaw line were fact. I was a little annoyed at first, I mean he wasn't a dog, but so what if he was, as long as he was good to her .... right????  


Well it really isn't that simple. We are visual beings, living in an age of instant gratification, in other words we SHALLOW- AS - HELL, and unfortunately looks do matter. No one picks the ugly dude in the dance to make out with, the real question, is how much looks SHOULD matter in choosing a mate.


"I have a type", she explains, "and its not ugly".  O_o Most women know what they want in a man, we always hope that we find him and he's handsome too. But you can't always have what you want. We must be warned against holding out for the "perfect guy". I'm not saying we should lower our standards, just set our priorities straight, and be realistic. She fell for a man who didn't meet her usual strict standards of physical beauty, even though she admits that he a "pretty decent guy" (no pun intended), AND the sex is awesome.


Still, she's concerned about how the kids would turn out, about what her family and friends would think about her bringing home ah ugly man. She feels it necessary to have that general feeling of satisfaction that comes with having a handsome prize on her arm, a man other women would lust for. But really ??? ..... why sacrifice your happiness for a pretty face?? Common sense would tell us that beauty fades, that character and values are what would really decide the faith of a relationship. 


Real love is never ugly.  But hey... if we’re already committing shoe-icide; sacrificing our feet for a hot pair of heels,  its not that hard to see how for some, its totally acceptable to be  miserable as long as he’s cute, but to me that’s like committing suicide.

A Toast To The VMA Ass hole

No really, hats off to Yeezy, Cheers. I've been meaning to do a review of his Power Trailer (video) and I kept putting it off. But I guess that just gave me more time to say what I think about a few more things that happened.

First off Kanye makes Twitter the fun place on the internet. And his stream of consciousness tweet and apology to Taylor swift, had us all hanging onto his every tweet, I was so happy to hear that the EGO was gonna take a back seat and music was gonna drive the Maybach again. I just wanted to give Kanye a hug at that moment, and then, I wanted to move on.

But then the VMA's happen and Taylor sings her "I forgive you Kanye" (tears*) song. I don't know exactly what to think about that one. On one hand it could be a very magnanimous gesture to end the whole thing, but then I cant help but think; come on, the guy was rude, he didn't rob a bank ("You are not what you did".... ?????) sounds like little Miss America's Sweet heart needs to get over her self. It was a Moon man not a Pulitzer......Anywho, Yeezy did well in his performance of a song none of us had ever heard and my glass was definitely up, SALUD!!.

So to the video. Can anyone say splendiferous genius on film. I LOVE IT!. I had previously proclaimed Jay Z's On To The Next One Video as the best I had seen in a couple years, but Power is the Best Video Of All Time ( Kanye voice)*.

Now some may read too little into the video; Kanye thinks he's a god, there he goes on another Ego trip. Some may read too much; Devil worshipper!! he said the clock is ticking!! 0_o. But isn't that a bit too shallow for someone with a mind like Mr. West? The truth is a lot less complicated than the occult and a lot more complex than Ego. This video is insightful, it's 120 seconds of truth.

It is powerful and amazing Hip Hop, with drums and a base line that just slaps you in the face. With samples from King Crimson's 21st Century Schizoid Man, its reminiscent of Stronger a few years back. Kanye is Smart, forward thinking and not complacent, he brought it; real Hip Hop Class.

The video is an explanation of his lyrics, at face value he addresses his "haters" with breath taking delivery and epic word play that lets out his frustration and despite its length it speaks volumes. To get the point you only have to look at one item in his moving portrait. The sword of Damocles suspended above his head. Damocles was a courtier of King Dionysius II of Sarycuse. He saw that Damocles longed for glory, and offered to switch places for the day, so Damocles could live as a King. The legend goes that Damocles took full advantage - indulging in food, music, entertainment, sex, until the day ended. He just so happened to look up and see a sharpened sword poised directly above his head, suspended by a single horse-hair. He suddenly lost his appetite for all the things he loved; all the beautiful girls seemed cold and ugly; the food no longer satisfied him. So he asked Dionysius to release him from the nightmare; he no longer wanted to be privileged with such fortune.Dionysius had successfully proven to Damocles a sense of the constant fear in which even great men live in.

Its a magnificent return to form for Yeezy. Kanye is Damocles himself in a position of power that eats away at him. the girls are his excesses and the men with knives and swords his fears.  In the end all that remains are his fears, the power, the perks, the inflated ego means nothing.

"No man should ever have that much power/Clock keeps tickin' I just count the hours/Stop trippin', I'm trippin’ off the power",

After the whole Taylor Swift incident things haven't been great with Kanye, and lets face it he wasn't on top of his game for a while now, but things seem to be looking up, as he comes to realize that Power isn't all its cracked up to be. Back to making magnificent music

I give it 10/10

Somebody Has To Say It

If You wouldn't write it and sign it, don't say it- Earl Wilson

So I decided to make a blog about all the things I usually think but never say, we all have them, so here's my list.

Americans are intolerant, hypocrites who have a worped sense of importance

Watching FOX News makes me sick to my stomach, no really I want to puke (Covers mouth and runs to the bathroom) and the worst part is that people actually take them seriously.

Lindsay Lohan is a Twit.

Kanye West has no class , no manners and is a very common man, all that Rosewood crap is just make believe. It's a good thing I can separate the man from his music.

Roses are over rated, I think they smell funny and there are so many other beautiful flowers that do smell divine, why do people insist on roses is beyond me.

Facebook and Twitter gives most people a false sense of importance, why do you think I care what you think or want to hear what you're having for dinner. Come to think of it, so does Blogger :)

Chris Rock is the greatest comedian alive

Friendship is a usually symbiotic relationship that can be mutualistic, commensal or parasitic in nature ............. o_O

Montana Fishburne needs to fall and hit her head AGAIN maybe that would wake her the heck up. Stupid hoodrat looking twit, somebody tell the braud that is not role model behaviour!!

Justin Biber is the most annoying famous person, he's even more annoying than The Jonas Bros, he's more annoying than Kanye West, he's even making Usher annoying, Ohh wait, Usher was annoying before that wasn't he ?? Doh!! 0_o (Homer voice).

Celebrity gossip news always exaggerate, we all know it's not a REAL scandal unless it involves a Brazilian transvestite.

Girls Next Door, Jersey Shore, Big Brother, Bad Girls' Club and other such Reality shows are STUPID!!

Phew!! I'm glad I got that off my chest :)

The Cove

Taiji is a seemingly beautiful, peaceful, small fishing town in Japan. If you have ever been to or seen photos of Japan's coast line, it will come as no surprise that it could well be among THE most stunning vistas on the planet. The Cove, a documentary by Luc Besson, reveals a sinister and bloody secret that lies just below the surface of the waters of Taiji.

If you have not seen The Cove you need to, the slaughter of thousands of Dolphins without justification is a pratcice that the fishermen of Taiji and the government of Japan are bent on continuing. They attempt to sell it as an innocent traditional activity, but there is so much going on that needs our attention. The ignorant mindless slaughter and torturing of Dolphins; mercury poising and the pimping of small bankrupt nations and third world countries that receive financial support from Japan in exchange for a vote in the International Whaling Commission (IWC), which (by the way) does not even acknowledge the massacre of an obscene number of Dolphins in Japan and worldwide each year. Dolphins are intelligent, self aware mammals and such indiscriminate, unregulated butchery of one of the few animals that truly make knowing human connection is something to be concerned about .

Fortunately since the release of this film there have been some changes, however there is still plenty to be done and we can all contribute to the cause, whether it be a donation, education (spread the word) or front line work. you can visit their official website to make you contribution. http://www.takepart.com/thecove

After watching this documentary I felt it would have been sinful not to act. This is not just a phenomenon that occurs in Japan it happens all over the world and we can help to stop it. The website gives you options, you can even begin to make a difference from behind your computer; like me. Visit their website get educated and make a difference.

Bloody Love

Love bleeds,

a strangled cry escapes her lips

as in an ocean of hatred her blood it drips.

Her tears are smeared across her heavenly face,

Charity it seems has lost her grace.

Love's seed are dug up from their nesting place

scattered to the winds

gone to waste.

Love weeps, for hope has died,

buried deep, but long lives pride.

From these evils none can hide .

Poor love has drowned in high tide.

Battered and broken

tormented and strained ,

Love's chaste name has now been stained.

Doubt kills Faith and Fear consumes,

our once kind Love , she needs no room

for truth or trust or perfect plans.

Love's heart lies broken in her hands.

(500) Days of Summer

"Boy meets girl, Boy falls in love, Girl doesn't"

A story about love but not a love story. (500) Days of summer is the most truthful romantic comedy I have ever seen. I absolutely fell in love with this movie, perhaps its Summer's quirky charm, or Tom's sweet likable-ness. Maybe it's the amazing cinematography and off beat editing that Indie films deliver, or maybe it's the near perfect sound track (the best since Juno). What ever it is, this movie is a must see, It shatters all the "rules" of the Hollywood romance and yet it is an honest look at having loved and lost.

Tom the hopeless romantic falls in love with Summer, the girl who every other guy wants but can never have, the girl who believes that love isn't real. The cut and paste editing is a reflection of Tom's memory of his year and a half with Summer, in memory we choose what we want to remember. The film highlights the good and the bad of falling in love. We see how Tom suffers and looses his faith in love. And just like Tom one minute we love Summer and the next we think she's such a bitch.

The movie is full of heart and truth and soul. It is a remarkably insightful and funny reinvention of the genre and if you have ever loved and lost this movie would be easy company. Director Marc Webb shines in his feature film and I honestly can't wait to see

where he goes from here.

P.S: This movie reminds me of Juno, in fact I think I'm gonna watch that right now.

CUT

MY VEINS OPEN
WIDE OPEN
SPILL MY SORROW
THAT RUNS DOWN MY ARM
AND DRIPS FROM MY ELBOW
AND FORMS A RANCID POOL AT MY FEET.

DESCENDING MOUNT DOOM

LIFE IS REALLY A TRIP. I'VE BEEN GONE FOR A MINUTE, BUT NOW I'M BACK WITH THE JUMP OFF. READY TO BLOG ONCE MORE. THINGS HAVE TAKEN MANY UNEXPECTED TURNS FOR ME DURING THE LAST FEW MONTHS. I WOULD BE LYING IF I SAID THAT IT'S ALL GOOD, BUT I HAVE LEARNT SO VERY MUCH, ABOUT MYSELF, ABOUT THE WORLD AND ABOUT HUMAN NATURE IN GENERAL; THAT PERHAPS I CAN SAY THAT IT'S MUCH BETTER, BETTER THAT IT WAS BEFORE [PLAYING POLLYANA'S GLAD GAME :) ].


EVEN SO, THE STRUGGLE IS ALWAYS WELCOME AFTER IT HAS LEFT. ONLY THEN CAN WE REALLY APPRECIATE IT'S MANY LESSONS, AND TAKE THE TIME TO CONVERT THE PAIN INTO GROWTH. SOMETIMES GOING IN THE DIRECTION THAT WE NEED TO GO IS DIFFICULT AND SOMETIMES THE ROAD IS FILLED WITH SHARP STONES AND BRIERS, BUT TRUE AND SIGNIFICANT GROWTH HAPPENS DURING THESE PERILOUS JOURNEYS. YOU JUST ASK FRODO, MOUNT DOOM WAS TRULY A BITCH, AND MAYBE HE WAS NEVER THE SAME AGAIN, BUT SOME PAIN IS NECESSARY AND GOES BEYOND SELF. THE WISDOM AND STRENGTH GAINED AT THE END OF IT ALL, MAKES THE WHOLE TERRIBLE EXPERIENCE SOMEHOW WORTH IT. (ALTHOUGH I'M PRETTY SURE FRODO WOULD DISAGREE WITH ME)


AND YET, ON THE ROAD OF LIFE THERE ARE NO DEAD ENDS,  WHERE ONE STORY ENDS ANOTHER BEGINS, AND THE FIGHT EVER ONGOING, SO GAME FACE ON, LIGHT FOOTED AND SMILING HEART I AM READY TO TAKE ON THE WORLD.

RUNAWAY

RUN AWAY CHILD.

RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

MAKE HASTE AND MILES OF DISTANCE BETWEEN YOU AND THIS PLACE,

AND TAKE WITH YOU YOUR BROKEN DREAMS.

RUN AND MAKE TIME MEAN NOTHING.

LET YOUR FEET AND THE NIGHT AIR CARRY YOU AWAY,

NO LUGGAGE;

JUST YOUR BAGGAGE AND YOUR THOUGHTS,

AND  THE CLOTHES ON YOUR BACK.

RUN AWAY CHILD, AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

On To The Next One

Now despite all the conspiracy theories about J and this video that are floating about (which by the way i think is bull shit, and I'm not about to make this blog about whether Jay-Z is a Devil worshiper or not) [rolls eyes*], The video is actually pretty awesome. With his vision and director Sam Brown's talent, an edgy, artsy but luxuriously visual video was created. The camera movements are pretty simple but that is only to accommodate the striking imagery, a mix of art and pop culture that obviously makes a strong statement. Since 99 problems rap videos have become more and more artistic and complexed, not just about shiny jewelry, half naked women or overly pricey cars, but real thought provoking content or in other words art.

Oh, and by the way The Blue print 3 is my favorite album for this year I constantly have it on replay so i suggest you lend it an ear.

THE STARBOX

The first time I heard that word (starbox) I had no idea what it meant. To be honest I assumed that it was some high fashioned accessory; and I guess it can be considered that way too. I mean, it was described as something that all women wanted to have and all men just plain straight wanted. But starbox, a.k.a good pu**y or the whole package is what makes the world go round.

Now I know that I've got the starbox, ; ) and I'm not bragging but I've consistently been complemented on my starbox quality (hehehe). but anyways lets not make this about me.

The real issue is the music. I've recently returned home from a long stay away. In my country, Jamaican dancehall is a major part of the music scene and lifestyle of a lot of young people. For the most part the lyrical content are usually either sexual, violent or sexually violent. I would love to pretend that we all know that these are just lyrics, but sadly I have been proven wrong time and time again.

Both young women and some not sooo young men are convinced ( it seems by this music) that when it comes to sex, girls must want their cuchies "daggered", "beaten", "pounded", "stabbed" and other such violent variations of homicidal vocabulary. But it doesn’t end there, this same daggered and beaten private part must still stay tight, and with sufficient control over the elasticity of her vaggie muscles the female in possession of said organ must be able to "quint it pon de edge". Ohhhh yeah... it means exactly what you think it does.

I totally understand the need for the occasional rough kinky sex (the vex sex as a good friend calls it) I mean no one likes monotony especially when it comes to the nookie, but ya'll cant be serious, this is not and should not be the standard. If you have that starbox, having it pounded on such a regular basis would definitely depreciate your starbox value. But damn, even if you aren't one of the chosen few, allowing someone to treat your vagina like a piece of conch, or “a child who has done something wrong” can not only be unhealthy mentally and physically but ruins any chances of you having a twat worth fucking anyway.

Ladies, your pu**y is a place for pleasure, a place where you can find joy, a place that should be nurtured and cared for, and not only by your man but also by your self. Part of having that starbox quality is maintenance. Just cause you ain't got a man, don’t mean that you can't take care of her your self, after all practice makes perfect,(and you don’t need a whole team to practice, you can shoot the hoops all by your self) on the other hand f***ing every Tom, Dick or Harry that you find cute won’t cut it either. You've got to start respecting yourselves and your vaginas will respect you. A starbox is that way because it is not mistreated nor abused but pampered.

RASTAMAN

I am a Rastaman,

I belong to the Rasta clan,

I wear no shoes and I wrap me head

I carry a staff and I grow me dreds.

I am a Rastaman.

Bun Bablyon is me theme song

bun battyman is the creed long

bun Jesus and the government

bun school and catholic sacriment.

He told me he was a Rastaman,

Bongo dred, who listen to Bob Marley.

Twelve Tribe whose name start wid "i"

Ignorante.

Lost sheep, and he high.

He claim he is a Rastaman

but he don't know what is Rastafari,

what is love and peace and justice.

he blinded, his life is a lie.

He ain't no Rastaman,

just a child searching for a home

like a dog searching for a bone.

He lost in the ocean

sinking like stone.

Rastafari is not ignorance.

It's the truth and the search for the Almighty plans

Walking in the ways of the Most High's commands,

For rightousness and justice a Rastaman stands.

Meditating on the scriptures

love and a strong lion heart.

And for the Rastaman knowledge is the start.

The school will teach you to count and read

Rastafari will teach what really counts to his seed.

Respect and love for yo fellow man.

never afarid to lend a helping hand.

But brimstone and fire fo Bablylon.

Hard work and honesty with yoself and Jah.

Pride in yo race,

hope in Africa.

Cleanliness, and love fo nature,

Prudence in the use ah ganja.

Each man have to search and find his own way.

But yo family and His Majesty come first everyday.

learn humbleness in thoughts, words and deeds.

forget about vice and hate and greed.

One Love, One Aim, One Destiny.

A real Rasta search for truth

so let him be.

For King Jua

my daddy...my teacher